45 lessons life taught me

This is from an old post sent to me by my cousin. It’s too good to not post again.

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old,
of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, OH

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written.”

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles. (you are one…)
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

The Spare Room, 20 Years Ago +/-, & Yogalicious

It began like any other ordinary day, cleaning a spare room for my Chinese exchange student and turning it into a hospitable and welcoming room. Boxes were moved out and then while considering their contents, I discovered my life 20 years ago and the days when my children were adoring children and not off being responsible adults.  There were enough clothing items, school projects, cards, and photos to put a wistful, reminiscent smile on my face and a far away glimmer in my eye. Some things are just worth keeping. They will go back in a box to explore again many years from now.

After a day of schlepping boxes, creating a donate pile, and a discard pile, I was able to quickly move things into the back of the Jeep and drop them off respectively on the way to yoga and swimming tonight. Usually it’s a list of what I did, but tonight after a day of constantly moving things, yoga and swimming really were enough. And yoga was way good tonight. We had an excellent teacher who understood the importance of vinyasa flow. I also love the work she has us do on the wall. We scoochie up against the wall, place our legs on the wall, and do simple stretches just before ending our session. It feels so good after sun salutations which is the more rigorous part of yoga. Yoga is a big part of my life  and is something that makes a genuine difference in the way my body works. Heating up the core muscles for me means sweating which detoxes, and the agility I gain from these stretches restores the flexibility in my body movements. Simply put, it makes me feel great. If you think you might be interested in yoga, check out YouTube or Meta Cafe by searching yoga and sun salutations.

And now a cool evening calls to just take a good book to bed and read.  Night

Blessings,

-Patricia

Long Day, Valentine's Day, a Real Meal, and Rockin' the Bob

Day is done. Longer day than I expected, but sometimes friends need help.  Glad to provide a little assistance.  A friend of mine is just beginning the National Board journey and needed some help reading her essay for the application and such.  No problem. People have read so much of my writing going through this process, I’m thrilled to read for someone else. I’m almost done, and now that I can see the end in sight and not freaking out about finishing in time, I’m enjoying it. But…I will be glad to finish.  There are other writing projects that I want to put more time into…namely my own writing.

So tomorrow is Friday and the last working day of the week.  My students will be writing poems with Valentine’s Day candy hearts with curt, little expressions on them simply for fun…to enjoy writing…as it should be…for pleasure, for fun, for amusement, to scratch your creative itch, to tickle your muse.

I’m rockin’ the new haircut with fabulous, edgy product included.  Nothing perks up the girrrl in me like a good cut and new hair product. Just to say….

So dinner at my house tomorrow night will be special because it needs to be.  It’s been a while, and I do love a good home-cooked meal.  I’m thinking chicken tikka masala or  do some country cookin’.  Hmmm….yeah, I think the country cookin’ just won out.  It was the home-made biscuits.  They have the most electoral votes when deciding what’s for dinner.  Usually, what’s for dinner isn’t such a big question, but since I haven’t had a dinner the entire week, it’s pretty special at this point.   So I love to cook, am great I’m told, but I’m not in the kitchen all the time. Just enough to enjoy it.

Here’s wishing you a wonderful Valentine’s Day.  May people be kind to you. I’m beginning to fall asleep and feel blessed to be happy and content.

G’night.

-Patricia

Balance Restored, Vampire Birthday Party, and Spa Time

Do you know what I like about my Mac laptop?  Everything.  It’s feather light, user -friendly, and waiting for me when I retire to the big fluffy, the cloud I call my bed.  I revel in my goose down featheriness, especially when it’s 6 degrees outside again tonight.  I take it winter is returning.  That’s the weather forecast for tonight which translates into “where’s my long johns.”

Today I battled the forces of darkness and kept them at bay.  Good triumphed over evil, and all is right in the land again.  I restored the natural balance in the unseen world that can only be felt and not seen unless you’re especially good at reading thoughts and physical gestures.  So I think it’s safe to say that I can put my cloak away for the day. Tomorrow’s a half day at the school…then to writing.  I’m closing in on the end  of writing for National Boards and am beginning to get a bit frothy thinking about it.  So close…argh!  This has been a year-long project that will soon be wrapped up.

I am now reading  the second book in the Twilight series, New Moon. Probably the worst thing that can happen to a human at your birthday party when surrounded by vampires….is to cut yourself.  Pannnndemonium!  Great scene!  Some want you instead of the cake.  I’m really enjoying this series.  Great bedtime reading.  My students are loving it as well, boys and girls.  It crosses age and gender.  Crosses…I crack me up.  But these are new age vampires.  They don’t react/hiss/melt/smolder  to crosses or garlic, they don’t have fangs but are venomous, they are super fast, and most have some cool super powers like seeing the future, hearing thoughts, and making people relax.  Highly, highly recommend this series.

I think….I need to go to Bonneville Hot Springs Resort for a little spa time…maybe a little local wine by the fireplace or dinner possibly.   Bonneville Hot Springs Resort is one of the greatest things about this area especially in mid-winter.  It’s about an hour from here and well worth the ride to this secluded Northwest lodge resort in the woods.  Olympic-size mineral pool, mineral hot tub, full service spa, dining, and roaring fireplace in a lodge…yeah…and me.  Okay, it’s getting late, and I simply must read before dreamland to see what happens next.  How can you do anything after a vampire birthday party?!  Sheesh!  But the story continues.

Sweet dreams,

-Patricia

Winter Dreams, Howling Wind, Wi-Fi Cabin in the Woods, and Twilight

After coffee and scones this morning, I succumbed to the lure of my comfy bed and am now journaling from said comfy bed.  Getting up early and staying up just isn’t going to happen this morning.

It’s deep winter, and my thoughts turn to winter dreams, those lucid dreamings and ramblings that curl the edges of my lips into a self-indulgent, whimsical smile snuggled deep in goose down, a quilt, and a plush blanket with satin edgings.  In my bed of winter dreams, my winter dreaming begins as reading in this goose down refuge  and indulging in dreams and fantasy that smell like vanilla. Winter dreaming comes on after winter has lost its novelty, and spring is still a month or so away.  I think it’s a form of hibernation perhaps…but don’t really care and just surrender to the down and indulge in early bed times and reading something that pulls me into another magical world.  There are stacks of books waiting to be read and what better way or time.

The east winds are back and howling in Portland today according to the weather report.  They are predicting up to 75 mph winds there which means must faster winds here as wind picks up speed when blowing up the mountain. It also means power outages here.  It’s not unusual to lose power for several days at a time in the winter here on Mt. Adams, and you adjust or move.  I adjusted.  This isn’t to say that I went all Grizzly Adams.  Quite the contrary.

Deep, compact snow and ice, freezing balls outside, and no electricity.  Could you deal with that?!  In my determination to exist quite comfortably regardless of the conditions, I have and can run a generator for electricity which keeps me internet-connected and running a wireless home network, propane heaters that heat the house quite comfortably without electricity, and a propane cook stove that stands ready to provide a hot meal, coffee, or tea.  So life just goes on while I’m off the grid.  Winter here is so Henry David Thoreau at times…but wouldn’t he be surprised at my high-tech version of “roughing it.”  I would probably get an “Oh my God!” when he saw my posh winter dreams bed and a “you’ve got to be kidding” when he understood wi-fi.   No, this isn’t  your mother’s cabin in the woods.  It’s a haven of peace, tranquility, and creature comfort regardless of weather…with wifi.  It’s a nest well-feathered and not by accident.   After four days without electricity  a few years ago, I resolved to have life go unchanged in the face of power outages, deep snow, and zero-ish degree weather which are the norm here.   With a well thought out system of interconnected power strips for the technology, I can go from grid to generator in less than ten minutes and remain internet connected.  Heating is constantly propane and, well, there will always be stacks of books to read.

I continued  my reading of Twilight last night snuggled under my winter covers.  I absolutely love down and this book.  It’s an amazing winter reading combination!   Anyway, Twilight is really engrossing, creepy, and romantic all in one.  Edward is an everywoman kind of everyman.   At any age, ladies, you’ll heart the chivalrous, forward thinking Edward.  He understands woman-ly nuances.  He gets it.  He understands NOT giving the flirty waitress more attention than you at dinner and keeping his eyes on you when the waitress is being overly attentive to him!  Need I say more.  There are some men who need to read this and learn.  Okay, one in particular that comes to mind.  The setting may be high school in Forks, but the actual story and Edward are so Dove dark chocolate delicious more than that.  Tip of the literary cap to fellow English major and talented author Stephenie Meyer for such a wonderful story and deep, dark, rich characters.  Digressing, I wonder who her inspiration for Edward was in life?  Anyway, the movie is great…the book is greater!  But isn’t that always the way.  It’s an easy read.  I was spirited away to Forks and the rainforest and read half of it the first night.

-Patricia